i don't think i'm well-versed in research about this, but i'll take a wild guess so you have another hypothesis about this.
most men feel under pressure to get laid and get romance. many take pleasure in hunting for that, and many boast about successes and express frustration and/or sadness with their failures. a man who doesn't want to bother with any of that will probably feel out of place. obviously for you it seems like you didn't even consider yourself one of 'the boys' because you became a based ace instead.
at least now you found a way out of this turmoil, though you still had to consider the social climate a lot (and nobody who isn't making it worse wants to do anything about it), at least you don't have to gaslight yourself into doing something that you probably would've regretted (not to say that most who transition regret doing so). i hope you stick with this decision, but if you do end up wanting to transition, go for it as long as you can protect yourself. know your choices and the effects of picking each choice - for example you could just go agender too.
VariableGROfficial
Whether you make a decision that benefits you mentally, it shouldn't matter if you disappoint someone or not.
I congratulate you for continuing to worry about your health and well-being
You are a strong person who continues with everything possible
Have a wonderful day and remember, be yourself and be proud that you decide